There’s something wonderful on the other side.
Just like you, I too, have trouble doing the things I know I should do. Work out, meditate, eat greens, be nice to people. My immediate thought is usually something along the lines of “f*** it.”
When I start doing something, especially something that is not inherently joyful (stretching, breathwork, cold immersion), I want to quit. I have the inner coward telling me that I should go inside, wrap in a blanket with the cheetos, and lay by the fire.
It’s there. Strong.
I don’t know to what extent the resistance is there for all of us. I often wonder if the resistance we all deal with is the exact same. Is it the same feeling for everybody and some people are truly mentally stronger? Or is the resistance stronger or weaker in some folk compared to others.
I wonder, but truthfully it doesn’t matter.
What matters is that it’s you vs. resistance.
10 seconds into the ice bath. 30 seconds into a stretch. 2 minutes into a run. Starting a hard conversation. Sitting on the pillow to meditate. Putting the damn cookies away.
The above examples are a trigger where resistance is the highest. It’s that first sharp, intense feeling of, “I NEED TO STOP.” For me, this is coupled with loss of breath and panicked thought (or mindless thought).
If we stop at this first trigger, we cut ourselves short. We will never know what was on the other side. Doesn’t that bug you? It gnaws at me.
It gnaws at me not because I’m shaming myself for bailing out on what I’m supposed to do, but because I’m truly curious, “What is on the other side?” If I stay in this stretch, will I fall apart? Will I break? What will happen?
If I stay in this hard conversation for a little bit longer instead of walking away like I normally would, what will happen?
On the other side of that initial resistance is something wonderful. Maybe it’s a part of you that you haven’t met yet. Maybe it’s something that you didn’t know you were capable of.
But you know what’s for damn sure? On the other side of that resistance is the person that you want to be.
You can do it. And you KNOW you can. So do it.
Tell me how it goes…
With Love and Curiosity,